Is this you?

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Sims character needing sleep

Have you ever heard the expression, “I’ll sleep when I’m dead?” Are you a super parent, perfectionist student, or overtime addicted employee? Do you do a lot of “ripping and running?” Are you frequently late because you’ve overbooked or double booked? How do we find the balance?

Is there a balance to find?

In my personal life I am quite unpleasant with my fiancée and the children when I am lacking adequate rest. I have a fast paced, customer service based, night job. By the time my nerves settle enough to fall asleep it’s time to start a new day. In fact my nights and days all kind of just mesh into one big ball of movement and production.

Is there a way to keep your sanity? I think so. I say think because I don’t know. The people I know who do it still crash every once in a while. There are others who seem to maintain a peaceful upbeat attitude but they may indulge in less than healthy behavior from time to time. Can healthy behavior prove to beget consistency? 

Maybe.

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A few days ago I listened to (audio book) “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” by Joseph Murphy. A lot of the content I have heard /read before but authors and orators are finding creative ways to express old thoughts in a way that will heighten receptivity.

My Favorite Quote was, “Choose habitual thoughts that are constructive, harmonious and peaceful. They should only heal, bless, inspire and elevate you.”

Sounds simple right? It’s not but I will make a concerted effort to do better. What I will make a bigger effort to do is take ownership. Accountability or lack thereof is one of my reoccurring flaws.
I cannot impregnate my subconscious with negative thoughts and then be a dead beat parent and abandon them. They will keep crying. They will remain hungry for more negative energy. They will continue producing dirty diapers of despair. They will exhaust me completely.

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If you are a part of the “go hard or go home” family, how do you keep your attractive temperament? I would love to know your secrets. Yoga? Prayer? Drugs?! Leave me some feedback in the comments below. Thanks!

By:Shaun Nickens

Perfect (Cold Sweat Series)

I like fushia skies
I like old couples fussing at one another and smacking each other’s asses.
I like short walks that have more quality than long ones
I like flowers
I like cheese
I like the fact that Jimi Hendrix couldn’t even read music.
I like people from your past that don’t bore you with small talk. They just nod and smile.
I like sleep
I like the full disclosure of children
I like when doctors heal, restore, repair and do it masterfully
I like working hard but I despise not being recognized for it.
I love being a mom.
I like 3am, the stillness, the moonlight and the freedom.
I like the kind of breeze that feels like a touch from an angel.
I like surprises but I hate waiting.
I like life
And living
But I love being alive.

By:Shaun Nickens

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Nachos and Cheese [Cold Sweat Series]

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I walked in and I heard music. It was faint but it wasn’t gospel like I expected. It was all melody, all instrumental, no words. He said words complicate things. The floors shone. They weren’t wood. They weren’t marble. They weren’t glass. They weren’t concrete. You could feel something solid under your feet but you couldn’t see anything. It was like walking on water.

When I saw him I was surprised. He was thin. He was small. He was wearing a Polo t-shirt and some linen shorts with white slippers embroidered with the initials “J.C.” He said, “I heard you had some grievances. Come sit with me.” When I looked in the direction He was pointing in, I immediately knew where I was. There was the loft bed my parents bought me when I was 14. My old karaoke radio was on my old dresser with my old word processor on my old desk. There were roses from my dad on my desk and a looney tunes tweety bird figurine.

We climbed the ladder to the bed and He sat at the head and I sat at the foot. I didn’t hesitate. I said, “What’s going on? !”

     Why am I on a constant uphill battle?
     Why do the rich get richer and the
     poor get poorer?
     Why is there war?
     Why do babies die?

He sighed in exasperation. He rolled his eyes and sucked his teeth. Then he kicked his slippers over the bed and replaced them with gold leather moccasins with his first initial engraved on the sole. He waved his hand over his head and his cherry wood locks transformed to a baldie. I stared in amazement. I reached for his head subconsciously but he politely bobbed and weaved out of my grasp. He said, “No one touches the fresh cut. Not even my mom.” Then he said, “What do you really want to know?”

I didn’t know what to say.

He took out a bag of tortilla chips and salsa con queso and he said, “Let’s bond a little. What do you really want to know? What keeps you up at night? Like I know you have a good heart, I made it! But I know you aren’t stressing over war and poverty.”

My palms started to sweat.

“Okay, why did my sister die on July 4th? She was so young. I often wonder what she would be like as an adult.”

He finished the chip in his mouth. He said, “I needed her here. Her strength, her curiosity, her innocence was too good for the world. I needed her here…sorry.”

I asked, “Why don’t I feel beautiful?  Why can’t I see what others see? Why didn’t I get a high round ass…”

I stopped and became flushed with embarrassment. Did I just curse in front of Him?

He laughed heartily and snapped his fingers. A golden toothpick appeared and he picked his tooth with it. Then he snapped his fingers again and it vanished. He said, “Its cool. Proceed…”

“Why isn’t my skin flawless? Why can’t I just wake up perfect?”

“Has it ever occured to you that you are perfect. That everything you want to correct, I purposely placed meticulously just the way I wanted it. You waste so much time trying to be something adverse to what I designed. Frankly it pisses me off!  Just relax. You’re good.”

Then I said, ” SOMETIMES I feel like I am stark booty butt naked, standing in the middle of the street, painted neon green, screaming and people just drive/walk past me. No one looks. No one tweets what they saw. Invisible. No one flinches. Why does everyone save their ‘I love you’s’ for funerals? Why do people wait for occasions to buy flowers? Why don’t people write letters anymore? Why are we so social but completely disconnected????? Its like standing in a storm bone dry. Surrounded by people but no one connects. We’re too busy. We’re too vain. Too busy with selfies and gossip about celebrities we’ll never know.”

I was screaming.

He stopped eating.

He said, “Eat because I don’t want you to say nothing.”

I couldn’t help but laugh.

He was funny. I kinda always knew He would be.

He said,” SOME People have always been ungrateful ungrounded and ungodly. However,  what you’re describing is different. You’re describing a self centered nature. Not to be confused with selfish! They are just absorbed. Too absorbed to see your love,  loyalty or friendship. You’re not exempt by the way. You’re thinking of what you need and how you feel. How do you know there wasn’t a time when they felt the same way and YOU dropped the ball? A call you missed. A visit you never rescheduled, you just cancelled…”

I tried to speak but he politely offered me more dip and said, “Eat.”

“There have been fires, floods, and other sacrifices.”

He showed me the scars on his wrists. He showed me where he was beaten.

“Look for the rainbows. Look for the cycles in life. Wait for the up after the down. Wait for the downhill where you dont have to petal hard, you just coast. If you can’t run down the hill, then just roll but keep moving. I don’t give up on you so you can’t give up on yourself. Forgive. You have to forgive. Forgive the flaky people who never showed up. Forgive the broken promises. Forgive divorce. Forgive addiction. Forgive mistakes no matter how ugly they are. Forgive the things you can’t forget. Let go of the times you zig’d when you should have zag’d. Forgive abandonment. Free yourself from cowardice. Accept loss. Fill the void with hope. Everything cycles. Pain is received and pain is inflicted…”

I began to cry. I whispered, “Please stop.”

He continued, ” The truth cuts with a jagged knife. We can be very self righteous. We can be selective and relative about black and white situations and try to make them gray. Our opinions of people are a glass menagerie but we heavy handedly and clumsily handle our loved ones. We hate what we don’t understand. We flee from the thought that we possibly deserve everything we get.”

“PLEASE STOP” , I yelled.

I jumped out of the bed. Frantically looking for the exit. I always imagined this conversation would be different. I felt alone. I felt misunderstood.

He followed me. I was running. He was walking. I ran and He chased. Most of my life I was chasing answers and He was running from me. He hugged me and said, “This is what you wanted. Why do my brothers and sisters get so frantic when I am giving them what they want?”

I said,  “Can I leave?”

He said, “You have free will.”

As I waited at the gate for the access code to exit, I sobbed silently.

He whispered , “I feel so alone. I feel so misunderstood.”

The gates closed behind me.

By:Shaun Nickens